How many times you have been hurt and got angry on someone? How many times you hated someone in your head or out loud? How many times you thought that certain person did you wrong and how you wanted him/her to get their punishment?
We all have experience of these bad feelings, but not all of us got a chance to say that we forgave and forgot. That is really hard to do - especially when someone hurt you so bad you had few years to recover. Or maybe you never fully did. But to forgive and forget is really important because of nothing else but - YOURSELF.
I don't want to be in my own created prison, so I choose forgiveness. But forgiveness is not enough - not to keep some bad memories and emotions in to yourself is the best cure - to forget, let it go, let it fly to the sky, reach the sun and burn. That is what you have to do to be completely free. Free from pain, bad emotions, hurt and so on.
Only by forgetting and letting go - we can make ourselves heal and be happy again.
You can't go inside of other person mind and head and to know what real motives he/she had when she/he decided to hurt you. You never know the full story of other person that is why to forgive is the best we can do not only for ourselves, but for them also.
Maybe no one ever understood them, loved them and even care about them? Yes they did us wrong and they know that. To be angry and hate - will only feed their inner evil and they will never heal. But by our forgiveness they can heal.
Once again - do not close yourself in to prison. Spread your wings and fly to better tomorrow !!
Matthew 5:7-9
7 Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy
for they will see God
for they will be called children of God.
Sometimes its easy to say, you should forget and forgive ...
ReplyDeletein my life I had this situation that my friend was killed by a knife in the hand of an drunken guy after a stupid beef on a party. My first thought was payback. And if I thought like that, then you can imagine how his beloved brother was thinking and feeling in this time.
Just from the moment God showed me his big love and I understand that he forgave me everything, I was free of all my hate and anger, and it was also easy for me to forgive everyone for everything.
If people without God reading this nice words about forgiveness, they probably don´t understand them and maybe they even think that you have a naive approach in this topic. But if they know the power and the words of God, they would agree with you 100% as I do!
Luke 6, 36-38:
"Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.
Judge not, and you will not be judged;
condemn not, and you will not be condemned;
forgive, and you will be forgiven;
give, and it will be given to you."
Dear Stranger,
ReplyDeletethank you for sharing your experience.
I can only imagine what people are feeling in case of someone being murdered, but people who follow God and who are followed by God know that to forgive and forget is the best way not for the guilty one, but for yourself. Why we want to put ourselves in prison, where we can't get out?
Even people without God could understand that forgiveness work like medicine.
I wish that more and more people would learn how to help themselves and learn that forgiveness + forgetting is the best way for them to move on.